As a first time mom, I’ve had quite a lot of breakdowns. I remember during the first ever breakdown I had (which was because of the challenges I faced during breastfeeding), my husband didn’t know what to do. He tried to offer solutions to the situations, and told me that if only he had breasts to feed our child, he would gladly do it. It was very nice of him to say that, but honestly, it didn’t really help me. Of course, deep down, I appreciated how my husband tried to make me feel better. But I learned that physical touch and words of affirmation were my love languages, and at that time, I just needed him to hold me and say that he appreciated what I did.
In relationships, it is important to know your partner’s love language, or how he likes to receive love. While you may think that words of affirmation may be a solution to his feeling down or stressed, that may actually be your love language, and not his. Knowing your husband’s love language allows you to specifically target your actions to help him in ways that he will appreciate the most. So if you’ve got a stressed out hubby coming home from work, and you want to help make it better, check out our list of ways you can chase all that stress away based on his love language.