We all know that spending time with the kids is important. But did you know that it’s also important to have one-on-one time with each of your kids? Despite your busy schedule at home or work, spending alone time with them will help build a stronger relationship with each of them. Check out these five reasons why you have to spend quality alone time with each child.
You get to know who they are.
Just like when you enjoy date nights with your husband, so it is with your children! Because through one-on-one conversations, your kids will feel like they are heard and seen. Also, you get to slowly learn about their individual likes, dislikes, and their favorite quirks, which is very important in creating a solid bond with them.
It gives your kids a chance to open up.
Having a solo date is a good way to build trust between the two of you. Plus, it creates a safe place where they can be comfortable with you about their thoughts and their feelings. Through this practice, they will most likely be able to comfortably share their concerns at school or even with their other siblings with you all the time.
It makes them feel valued.
Having solo time with your child is like you’re saying, “I love you so much, that I want to get to completely focus on you.” They love it when you make time for them despite your busy schedule. It reassures them that your date with them is worth setting some time aside for. So as much as possible, try to block off time on your calendar to do a few activities with each of them.
It shows that you don’t have favorites.
As much as possible, you don’t want your kids to feel that you love one more than the other. You can adjust your dates with each of your kids to their different personalities. For example, if your daughter loves to read, then you can take her to a book store. And if your son loves sports, then can opt to take him to a basketball game. These simple dates will let them know that you value each of them equally, take notice of their individual likes and dislikes, and that they don’t have to get jealous of your time with their other siblings.
It builds a strong foundation with them.
Let’s face it, your kids won’t be kids forever! And before you know it, they’ll be all grown up. Building a strong and open relationship with them at a young age, helps set the foundation for a stronger relationship when they become teenagers and even adults.