As parents, our child’s performance in school is very important to us. We don’t just want to be involved in both their academic and social development, we also want them to have a good experience overall. However, when our child or teen begins to struggle in school, there are times that they do not inform us themselves. They don’t tell us right away, or worse, we’re the last ones to know about what is really happening. So what are some signs that your child is having difficulty in school, and what can you do about it? Read on to find out!
1. Gets low grades
This is an obvious one. While an occasional poor grade should not be a cause for concern, a pattern of low grades is definitely something serious.
2. Refuses to talk about school
The first reaction when a child is having difficulty in school is to avoid the subject completely. Your child might suddenly refuse to tell you what he is learning or how his day went. He may also change the subject or leave the room just to avoid the discussion.
3. Shows aggression
Older kids and teenagers show aggressive or overly emotional behavior when something irritates them. They tend to become moody or contentious, usually before they leave for or after they arrive from school.
4. Displays a change in study habits
Does your child spend more time in doing his assignment? Is he using his textbooks, own notes, or other resources? Is he working with a study partner or by himself? Check your child’s study habits for any drastic changes, as this may be a sign that he is struggling with the subject matter or a particular subject.
5. Starts misbehaving in school
A child might just lack the skill to speak up when he is struggling in school. However, if you have older children, the cause for their not telling you may be because they find it uncomfortable to discuss this matter with you. For some, misbehaving in school is their way of catching attention, and sending a message that they are having some difficulty.
6. Shows disinterest or makes excuses about going to school
You might notice that your child seems distracted whenever the topic of conversation is school. He may appear distant or find every chance he has just to skip school. One common excuse is pretending to be sick just so he won’t have to attend class.
1. Evaluate your child’s behavior.
Has there been a recent change in his life, like a moving to a different house, a sudden shift in schools, or the death of a loved one or pet? This may be a contributing factor to his recent actions.
2. Talk to your child.
Talk to your child about the signs that you have observed, and ask if they want to talk about it. They may or may not be open at first, but that’s okay. Do not try to insist for an explanation if they are not yet ready.
3. Keep the communication lines open.
Show your child that he is welcome to speak his mind. Once he starts sharing, be watchful of your words and even your facial expressions, as our children can tell if we are mad or frustrated. Try your best not to overreact.
4. Schedule a meeting with his teacher or school counselor.
If your child openly shares with you his difficulty, consult with his teacher on what can be done. But if your child does not open up to you, talk to his teacher or school counselor about your observations.