8 Things You Can Say To Your Spouse When Marriage Gets Tough

It’s so easy to get caught up in life’s day-to-day activities and challenges. And with everything that we have to do in our lives, this may render us complacent about our relationship with our spouse–which may eventually lead to disagreements and misunderstandings. Although there’s no existing formula for a perfect marriage (because there’s simply no perfect marriage), choosing your words carefully when things get rough will greatly help in turning any argument into a positive learning experience for both partners. Here are some things you can say to your spouse during those difficult times.

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I want to understand you. 

Knowing that someone is willing to understand us makes a big difference when frustration tends to get the best of us. Let your spouse know that you want to understand where he or she is coming from. Listen without judgment, listen to understand, and not simply to reply.


We'll get through this, together.

Marriage is not a walk in the park, and there will be days when it will really get crazy. But it always takes two to tango, in the same way that marriage won’t be successful as a one-sided affair. Make each other feel that, together, you are invincible, and believe that though it may be hard, it will always be better to have each other.


I'm sorry. 

You will never reap anything nice out of pride, most especially not a good relationship. So if you think you are at fault, it’s always better to simply say sorry, and admit your mistake.


You are forgiven.

Not only does forgiving make you feel great, it also helps your partner feel loved and accepted despite his or her imperfections.


What can I do to make things better?

In every relationship, compromise is key. Let each other know you’re willing to do whatever it takes to make things better for each other.


 I will always stand by you. 

Life won’t always be filled with sunshine and rainbows, which is why it’s best to make your spouse feel that you’re here to stay in good times, and most definitely in bad times, no matter how uncomfortable it may get.


You will always be worth it. 

Though life may get overwhelmingly difficult at times, let your partner know that even if you don’t always see eye to eye, having him or her will always make all the hardships, and even those crazy fights, worth it.


I love you. 

Though the simplest, it may actually be the hardest to utter when things get rough, when challenges tend to be too much, or when you’ve been really hurt by the one you love. But in marriage, love means constantly choosing each other, even if it’s hard to love your spouse during certain times, and even if you don’t feel the love at all. An ‘I love you’ in marriage may also mean ‘I will keep choosing you no matter what.’


There are a lot of factors that can cause a relationship to become rocky, but remember, as the popular saying goes, ‘Nothing worth it ever comes easy, and nothing easy was ever worth it.’ If you see couples who have grown old together, know that they didn’t get where they are without wanting to leave each other at some point, but they got there because they always chose to stay, to reconcile, to forgive, to love, and to never give up.


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