For many of us, it’s easy to think that having a baby or becoming a mother is as simple as wanting a child or feeling ready to be a parent. But, the truth is, although many women are lucky enough to conceive and give birth without complications, there are still plenty of others who struggle to make their dreams of becoming mothers come true. Trying to get pregnant is a journey in itself and it comes with its own often heartbreaking experiences.
Today, these women are sharing their stories about their difficulties with conception and what they wish others knew about this issue. If you’re also struggling to conceive, we hope reading these testaments will help you remember that you’re definitely not alone. Keep reading!
For several years, we couldn’t get pregnant and my original OB told me I had subserous myomas but should still be able to get pregnant because she’s had cases of success from women who had the same case as me. A different OB suggested I have it removed (turned out to be 4 LARGE myomas!!!) and it was only after that operation did we finally successfully conceive. 😲 All those years of trying…🥴 So yes, conceiving was a difficult journey for us. Alas, our Little Dumpling is now turning 13 months old in 2 days. 😊
I guess it’s the thought of pressuring yourself to get pregnant.. when I let go of this feeling, and just prayed, ate healthy, slowly quit caffeine and just enjoy the process that’s the time it will be given.. I’m 7 weeks preggy and a struggle for me is my all day and night sickness.. but I am optimistically embracing motherhood.. 💕🙏🏼☺️
For active couples like us–I hate it when they always tell us to “slow down”… to stop training and running… etc etc. We did that for two years. We got fat and miserable. It was more expensive than joining races. The hormonal meds I had to take made me go crazy and emotional–we would fight everyday. It was amazingly the worst days of our lives. And now, we try the “just don’t think about it and relax” method–still nothing.
So we are both back to training and triathlons. We are healthier and happier. Lols who knows–at the age of 38–maybe we will try again next year. 🤣
By the time my husband and I were thinking of having ourselves checked (honestly self doubt is depressing), a couple friend of ours invited us for a NFP seminar. It was a about the Billings method by the org WOOMB. I’m so thankful that we didn’t have to go thru the check up because 2 months later we already got a positive! He is now 4 months. We’re planning to use the method again to hopefully have a baby girl next. 😊
It is hurtful when other people make fun of or make unkind comments regarding your failure to conceive like “ang bagal nyo naman” or “di na kayo bumabata,” “bilisan nyo na,” “naunahan ka pa ni…” etc. Some comments do not have bad intentions but the best thing to do is just keep quiet. Don’t ask if if your friends have conceived yet, rather, just wait for them to open up when they are ready. If they never open up, let them be.
Also, be sensitive when inviting them to parties like baby showers, kids parties, etc, sometimes it hurts to see others enjoy their children while they are waiting to conceive. If they excuse themselves from attending, be understanding. The best way to help is to pray for them and be there for them when they open up, even if it means to just listen without giving advice.