Moms left and right have their worries during this pandemic. It seems as though life has made a complete turn of our everyday routines. While being ‘in control’ is second nature to moms, we understand how difficult it is for them to get on their feet. There are a lot of uncertainties on whether this will all be over but like everything, there may be some good that comes out of this experience. We asked moms Angela Palanca, Gigi Uson, Jackie Go, Mia Rocha, Maggie Agustin, Pam Begre, Pattie Poniente what their biggest fears are, and what this lockdown has made them learn.
My biggest fear during the COVID-19 outbreak is that the institutions that uphold society would collapse and that the world as we had known would never go back to the familiar. I fear the economic devastation that this virus has brought upon us, how businesses might go under, that wages won’t be paid, and that children won’t be fed. I fear the unknown and COVID-19, but I also fear other diseases and illnesses as well due to the state of our health stations today and the risk of exposure. If one of my kids were to get measles, would I bring them to the hospital? I look at my kids and I fear that they might grow up in a world of empty streets and of virtual classrooms. I also fear that play dates, birthday parties, swimming lessons, and parks are a thing of the past.
I ended 2019 thinking that it was a really bad year but as I scroll through my photos, I see so many wonderful moments with friends and family. I feel happiness reliving those moments now that I did not have then and I realize that so much of life depends on personal perspective and that people see what they choose to see. I would like to start seeing the good in things, starting with this COVID-19 crisis. I like how I see compassion in people, how so many are trying to be part of the solution, giving their time and resources. I like how society is holding elected officials accountable for their governance now more than ever. I am hoping that this crisis will have a lasting impact on how we vote as a country.
I like that we are forced to innovate and be resourceful in our homes and our workplaces. Even with the many restrictions imposed on us, we can still accomplish a lot if we work together. Most importantly, I like how we are all reminded that there is a God, that He is real, He is good, and He is in control. I hope and pray that one day we will look back to this period in our lives and see the good that came out of it.
I feared the unknown — not knowing how the virus lives or how long it would keep us all in this state, if there would ever be a cure or if I would get it myself. But my biggest fear was not being able to understand why God allowed this to happen.
There are so many times in our lives God has been asking us to slow down. I realized that when He puts His foot down, He does. The days have slowed down and it’s not by our choice. This was ultimately His choice to quiet us — to be able to reflect on what’s most important, to strengthen our faith, to have time to mend brokenness, to bond with our families, and just simply appreciate what we have.
I fear the fall into a panic/anxiety pit! As a mom, I think it’s become second nature for us to plan because we find a semblance of peace in fixing our family’s schedule for the next weeks or months. It was scary to let go of the illusion of control—let go of the plans laid out for summer among other things. Letting go was my biggest challenge (because it can get to you mentally and emotionally) especially if it’s something beyond your own control. But slowly (with the help of meditation & prayer) I’m learning to go through this one day at a time.
There’s a lot of learnings! But one thing I’ve learned is to pause & breathe. Our fast-paced life before quarantine makes breathing a luxury. Now that life has slowed down, I can allot a few minutes every morning to meditate and breathe because I have nowhere else to go and I’ve got all the time now to finish pending chores. Breathing has helped me stay calm, focused, and to an extent grateful despite going through these uncertain times.
A really big challenge was convincing my parents to stay home! And my biggest fear was my family getting sick.
One of the lessons I had learned during this time was how the fiercest battles occur in the mind, it is so much easier to fear than to trust. Psalm 46:10 says to be still and know He is God, this is a beautiful reminder that whatever we are going through, He knows.
I always worry whenever my husband leaves the village to buy essentials.
I realized I have so many relatives and close friends who are health workers and every time I talk to them, it leaves me with such a heavy, dark feeling. I try my best to encourage them when we talk but most of the time I end up crying or feeling fearful for them.
My faith, family, and health are the most important aspects of my life. It made me appreciate the value of the community. Humans will find a way to connect with each other. Filipinos will always have the spirit of Bayanihan. Whatever way. Always.
It has taught me to value life skills (because we don’t have helpers now). It has taught me to be more mindful. I’ve learned to force myself to find something positive every day.
Early on I realized that it would never be the same for most aspects of life, be it family or business. That weighed heavily on me. I was devastated. The challenge of there being no time to compartmentalize because of various responsibilities to fulfill. Things changed by the minute and there was no time to digest. The only way to survive was to ADAPT. I know my challenges must be small compared to what others are going through, but part of being able to come through was acknowledging the struggle then moving forward.
It’s difficult to condense all the big lessons so far, but one poignant takeaway would be something I have realized before — all we have is the present. We need to live and love unapologetically. To take the steps to reach our true potential.
During the first few weeks, I couldn’t move or even think. I wanted to heed my own advice, but I was overwhelmed and it felt best to just be. And that’s okay. I was very anxious about the future and longed for the past. What helped was coming back to the present, and facing what was in front of me.
My biggest fear/challenge is really the UNKNOWN, the invisible enemy, the disease itself… infecting me or someone I love and having to deal with it in isolation, and even the possibility of succumbing to it.
A lesson that you can be elated and truly grateful for the simplest and most mundane things such as a clean kitchen countertop, an organized cabinet, an unhurried morning where I can enjoy the extra cuddles with the little ones in bed, zoom meetings with your loved ones, simple home-cooked meals, and even just a nice warm cup of coffee. As long as you are surrounded by the ones you love, that’s all that truly matters.
How about you? What are your biggest fears and lessons during this time? Share your experiences below!