As a first-time mom entering her eighth month of pregnancy, you bet I’ve gone through my fair share of mommy blogs, pregnancy apps, and parenting guide books. The words may sound a little different depending on whose speaking, but the message is clear no matter the source—your life is about to change. Just like every pregnancy journey is unique, I know motherhood will be something special to only me and my growing baby. So as much as I find comfort reading up on other moms’ exciting journeys, I am more eager to learn from my own experiences. Counting down the days until you meet your little one too? Keep on reading to find out what I’m preparing for!
This may sound like an obvious one, but it’s much easier said than done. A newborn baby is going to rely on me for every single thing and there’s nothing I can do to change that. This means I may have to trade my k-dramas for doula classes and pack up my yoga mat to make space for the baby’s activity playmat, but I don’t plan on giving up my interests entirely. My priority will clearly be on being the best mom I can be and taking care of myself as well as my interests will be an important part to achieving that.
It’s not forever, but it will definitely take some time to adjust. I’m the kind of girl who loves having brunch dates with friends and date nights out in every new restaurant. I doubt this will change about me, but my plans will have to be put on pause now that there’s a little one to think about. Every time we step out of the house, we will have feeding schedules and baby gear to consider first. This assumes we would even want to step out and spend time away from the baby—maybe after a month or two!
My baby and I will be doing so many things for the first time together. It will take learning and a lot of patience before we figure out what works best for us and we find our own groove. I can’t be afraid of trying and making mistakes because that’s all part of the process. How do I plan to balance being a responsible mom and a flexible mom? I’m not quite sure yet. All I know is I will give it my best shot.
Sure, we’ve discussed the “division of labor” when the baby comes. I’ll take feeding duty and he’ll take diaper duty, but who knows what will really happen when the baby is crying at 3 o’clock in the morning and the parent-on-duty can’t figure out how to soothe her? We can plan as much as we want, but it won’t always go according to plan. We have to be ready to step up not only for the baby, but also for each other. After all, we’re partners in pregnancy and in parenting. Check this out to learn more on how having kids changed these new parents’ relationships.
From the pains of labor to the woes of breastfeeding, moms before us have made us all aware it’s not going to be a walk in the park. There are many ways to go about motherhood depending on preferences—we’re talking epidurals and bottle feeding—but there is no single way to make being a mom unchallenging and stress-free. It’s a tough job that doesn’t always get easier. As early as now, I’m trying to encourage a mindset of gratitude, so that when faced with the unavoidable hiccups of motherhood, I remind myself that I am thankful for the opportunity to be a mother.
I’ve heard countless new moms gush over how their hearts grew exponentially when they first laid eyes on their newborn babies, but somehow, I feel I will still be stunned with just how much. I can’t wait for the rush of emotions that will come as well as the excitement and joy over every new thing my baby does. As if the little angel is not enough, I also know I will fall in love all over again at the sight of my husband as a new father. I can only imagine what seeing them together will teach me about love, about how it can mean more than I ever knew was possible.